Episode Transcript
[00:00:01] Welcome to the first day of this magical journey to freedom.
[00:00:08] The weight we've been carrying.
[00:00:12] So if you're tired of waiting to be perfect, to share your gifts, to make a difference, you're in the right place.
[00:00:20] I created this journey because, just to be perfectly honest, I was drowning in my own perfectionism.
[00:00:28] Fifteen unfinished books on my hard drive, hundreds of emails written but never sent, courses that could help people, books that I started and never finished.
[00:00:39] And so they're, they're just sitting there. They're sitting there right now at the time of recording this.
[00:00:44] And despite having a seven figure business and helping thousands of people, having 75,000 five star reviews and 30 years on the path and many books and courses and trainings, even despite all of that, there's still some part of me waiting to go to the next level, waiting to be ready, perfecting things that would never be perfect.
[00:01:11] And even when I started this course about perfectionism, which I intended to do in one evening just to make it happen, I ended up spending three days straight, all day long, I didn't even go out. Just trying to get it right, change this, change that, fiddle around. And finally I cracked and said, look, Michael, just start posting because people need help. And so if you're in the same place and you have all these gifts inside of you, you've had a spiritual awakening, you know there's more to life. You have real gifts, things that you've learned, things that you've healed, ways that you can help people, but you're sharing them fully. Yet then I think I know what's stopping you, what's stopping all of us.
[00:02:01] And here's what it is. We have this thought in our head. I want to share my gifts. I have something to share.
[00:02:10] But does that sound familiar?
[00:02:17] I want to go through the things that are stopping us. And as I read this list, as I share this, just tune into how many of these things you're thinking, I want to share my gifts, but.
[00:02:27] But I'm not ready yet.
[00:02:29] I'm not qualified enough.
[00:02:32] What if people judge me? What if I fail?
[00:02:37] What if I feel like a fraud, but I don't have time?
[00:02:43] I'll do it when things calm down.
[00:02:46] I need to wait for the right moment, when I have more energy, when I'm in the zone, when I feel better, but it's not good enough yet.
[00:02:58] I need more training first. I need more research. I need to perfect this first. I just need to fix myself a little bit more. I need to do a bit more meditation, but there are so many People doing this already. The market is saturated. No one will care what I have to say. Why would anyone listen to me?
[00:03:22] But people won't support me. My family won't understand. What is my sister going to think? My brother going to think? My spouse going to think?
[00:03:30] My parents?
[00:03:32] People will think I'm crazy. I'll lose relationships.
[00:03:37] But I'm too tired. I'm burned out. It's too hard. I'm not strong enough.
[00:03:44] I'm not ready enough.
[00:03:46] But what if it doesn't work? What if no one buys? What if no one cares? What if no one clicks? What if I don't get any followers? What if I lose followers?
[00:03:57] What if I can't actually help people?
[00:04:00] What if I'm just meant to stay small and not make a big deal about this?
[00:04:06] What if it's my ego and it goes on and on? I have an even longer list, but I'm going to spare you the details.
[00:04:18] So if you felt any of these things, then me too. My dear, My dear friends, I have had all of these thoughts and many more that nearly stopped me sharing anything. Luckily, I figured out some things that have allowed me to create an amazing life. And even applying some of the things you're about to learn a little bit like I have can have profound effects over time.
[00:04:51] I've been crippled by perfectionism my whole life and yet I still have created multi millions of dollars, live in beautiful places, have produced loads of books, courses, trainings, meditations, and helped hundreds of thousands of people.
[00:05:06] That's how powerful these things are.
[00:05:09] Now here's what I want you to understand.
[00:05:16] It's not your fault.
[00:05:22] These excuses, these beliefs, they're not character flaws. You haven't done anything wrong.
[00:05:28] This isn't proof that you're not ready.
[00:05:31] All of these fears are things that we absorbed from the outside.
[00:05:39] They're wounds that we carry.
[00:05:41] They're programs and influences from. From outside. And we've been brainwashed.
[00:05:50] We've been programmed since we were children to play small, to fit in.
[00:05:59] 50% of your programming happened by the time, by the time you're five years old. Five years old, Half of all your beliefs were already instilled in your subconscious by the time we were 8. Another 30%. So that's 80% of who we think we are. And what we think is possible is programmed into us by the time we're 8 years old. And by the time we're 18, we're 95% programmed.
[00:06:32] There's only 5% left.
[00:06:38] So no wonder we have all this junk in our Head stopping us, enjoying our life, doing what we love, sharing our gifts, sharing our song.
[00:06:49] Because we're terrified. And we're terrified because of all these beliefs, all this programming. And it's not your fault, it's not my fault, it's not any of our fault.
[00:07:03] But it is our responsibility to get out of it.
[00:07:11] So these are fears that we've absorbed from outside, from the world around us, from people who are scared.
[00:07:20] These are from systems that want to keep us small.
[00:07:29] You didn't come with any of this stuff in your soul.
[00:07:33] We have descended down here onto this planet to have a human experience as spiritual beings. We didn't come with any of this stuff. It got layered onto us.
[00:07:46] And here's what I know for sure.
[00:07:49] You are originally and eternally a pure, happy, loving soul.
[00:07:58] That's who you really are, Beautiful being of light and peace.
[00:08:06] But somewhere along the way, these things got projected onto you. They covered over your natural light, your joy, your freedom, your happiness.
[00:08:16] And over these next days, we're going to get clear how to liberate ourselves from all of these programs, how to clear them away, how to heal them, how to move through them, or past them, or around them.
[00:08:33] There's fears, there's beliefs, there's wounds.
[00:08:37] And we're going to clear it all away with so much love. Tenderly, gently and beautifully.
[00:08:45] And every day I'll share a story, something real, an insight, a new way of seeing. And then one simple thing that you can do.
[00:08:55] One gentle step forward.
[00:09:00] And I call this the self compassion moment. Or the choice.
[00:09:04] Because it's these little choices to love ourselves, to make a little shift that we do again and again that allow us to completely transform our life.
[00:09:17] Gently, gently.
[00:09:19] And release and heal whatever's holding you back.
[00:09:25] So today's self compassion moment is right now. Wherever you are, I invite you to place one hand on your heart and feel it beating there.
[00:09:44] Feel the weight of everything you've been carrying, the unfinished projects, the dreams that you haven't manifested.
[00:09:56] All the time that you spent preparing, perfecting, waiting, hoping, all that fear.
[00:10:10] Feel how heavy it's been, how exhausting.
[00:10:17] And just send yourself so much love for being here right now, for showing up in this safe and sacred space, for doing the best you could at the time and you really have done the best you could no matter what happened.
[00:10:36] Whatever we do is the best we could have done in the moment. And if we could have done something else, we would have.
[00:10:43] So just give yourself love for even being here, for even caring, for even wanting to share and Take one more beautiful deep breath with your hands on your heart.
[00:11:00] And this is where the healing begins.
[00:11:05] Not with forcing, not with striving, with love, with gentleness, with compassion.
[00:11:15] Just thank yourself for being here, for being willing.
[00:11:23] So I want to ask you a question.
[00:11:26] Are you willing to break free from this perfectionist prison?
[00:11:50] And if you are, say it out loud.
[00:11:55] Yes, I am willing to break free. I want to share my gifts.
[00:12:03] I'm ready.
[00:12:05] And notice how that feels.
[00:12:08] These little decisions, these little choices, as you'll learn in later sessions, these little changes can completely change the trajectory of your entire life.
[00:12:21] So that willingness right now opens the door to magic, wonders, transformation, beautiful new opportunities and blessings.
[00:12:32] Are you willing to break free?
[00:12:42] You don't have to be perfect.
[00:12:45] You don't have to do anything that is unnatural. We're just moving gently forward.
[00:12:56] And take that feeling of lightness, that willingness with you, and you're going to learn more in the next session.
[00:13:07] Tomorrow we're going to dive deeper into this perfectionism prism. What's really going on, what it's cost you, and how to start clearing it away.
[00:13:20] This is a gentle process, so take your time. There's no rush. It's taken many years for these programs to get filled into us. It's going to take a little bit of time, a bit of patience to get them out.
[00:13:35] So don't force this, don't rush this. Don't feel you have to get there all of a sudden. How come I haven't finished a book in 10 seconds? Just calm down. It's to take time. It's okay.
[00:13:47] Just love yourself. Love yourself and give thanks for your beautiful presence.
[00:13:57] Talk to you soon. Have a beautiful day and lots of love.
